Welcome to the Don’t, Not & No Show!

OK, it's showtime so let’s get started with the first game! 

Using Google – or the browser of your choice – type the following into your search bar: No Football and count how many results you get which are non-football related.

So, on to Game Number Two: All I’m going to do is ask you to Not think of the Eiffel Tower and describe the first image that came into your mind.

And now, to complete the show, the Final Game: You see a sign on a park bench that says Don’t Touch, Wet Paint – what’s your first reaction?

For the Google game, my hunch is you couldn’t find any non-football results, certainly not on the first few pages anyway, am I right?

For Game Number Two, would I be right in saying you immediately had an image of the Eiffel Tower in your mind?

And in the Final Game, is it possible your initial reaction would be to touch the bench just to see if the paint was really wet?

You can see how powerfully suggestive these three little words are and yet we find it very difficult to reduce or eliminate them from our vocabulary. You might be asking: “Well, so what? Why would I need to?” The answer is simple, because they generate a negative vibration which overrides the positive vibration you are trying to have matched by the Law of Attraction.

For example, many of us say No worries, No problem, I’m not quitting, Don’t jump in puddles and so on and we get annoyed because the opposite happens – we have worries and problems, we quit, our child jumps in muddy puddles.

There is a simple way to rectify that, which I’ll share shortly. However, here’s a difficulty I’ve come across when it comes to, as Michael Losier suggests, reducing or eliminating Don’t, Not and Know. It’s so damned hard! They creep up on you when you least expect it and, quite often, the alternative doesn’t always readily spring to mind.

So, what to do. When you catch yourself saying or thinking Don’t, Not or No simply ask yourself this question: “So, what do I want?”

 For example, let’s take Game 1 – You want to avoid any posts about Football in your Google search, therefore the obvious answer would be to be more specific in your search. So, what do I want? – Posts about cricket, or squash or some other sport, so you enter those terms in the search bar.

For Game 2 the same applies, be more specific. I’m not going to think of the Eiffel Tower – So, what do I want? I want to think about the Arc d’Triumph.

For Don’t, what you want is to prevent your child from doing something they shouldn’t, so a simple Stop would work to get their attention – although I’d let them jump in puddles! With Don’t it’s also a case of reframing the words or sentence. Don’t touch, Wet Paint could become Wet paint ruins your clothes or something like that.

The idea really is to help you become more aware of what you’re saying and thinking, therefore by asking yourself So, what do I want? whenever Don’t, Not & No arise will help you to think and speak in a more positive way, creating positive vibes which are then matched by the Law of Attraction.