What Is Your Truth?

(Excerpt from my upcoming book PUNC Living)

 Something I’ve learned and see playing out time and time again is the adage: What you Believe is Your Truth. When you have that strong conviction that what you are doing is right and you believe it to be the One And Only True Way then nothing on this Earth, possibly even the Universe, will make you accept otherwise if you dig your heels in and refuse any other explanation. Can you relate to that?

When I became a Jehovah’s Witness in 1995 I thought I had found the Truth, and the Witnesses actually refer to their teachings as The Truth. Compared to what I had been taught about Christianity growing up, especially in Belfast, Northern Ireland, the explanations shared with me and discoveries I made for myself, just made so much sense for me that I was convinced it was indeed the Truth.

What I experienced in my childhood and youth convinced me that Christianity was broken. When you get two sides of the same coin, both with the same Belief System but approaching it through a different door, hating each other with such a passion they were prepared to literally tear each other’s throats out, I decided I wanted nothing to do with a God that apparently condoned such hateful violence. When I left to join the Army, it was years before I set foot inside any place of worship, let alone tend a service unless it was compulsory and ordered to do so.

I started looking at other Belief Systems and sadly soon discovered they were no better in many ways. Perhaps not as violent but certainly very controlling and manipulative as well as divisive. Even those who follow a Buddhistic path have at times committed atrocities. I decided to follow a more agnostic path, sceptical of any religion who claimed they were better and everyone else were wrong. I still believed in a Creator, but that was it.

Then I met Jehovah’s Witnesses and decided to explore their views which were attractive to me as they promoted a more unified and peaceful approach, a more accepting and tolerant view of other Belief Systems. I truly believed I had found what I had been searching for.

Once I had accepted that and had become a Pioneer, or fulltime preacher, nothing anyone said from any other Belief System could deter me away. My heels were well and truly dug in. I learned to accept and respect that others would have their own Truths which they would adhere to, and it wasn’t my mission to shove mine down their throats in a Fire and Brimstone manner. No, my work was to help them see an alternative and, in time, to accept that alternative as I had done should they want to.

That changed during my final couple of years as an active Witness because, like I mentioned earlier, when you look for cracks you’ll find them, and I did. I began to dislike the Patriarchal system within the organization, where women have to defer to the men in many ways and which are outdated in modern society.

Their view on homosexuality, which was highlighted by a young man who was Gay being more or less told he had to repress those desires in line with Scripture or face expulsion from the organization. He did what he could and even got married, fathered a child and then left a few years later to follow his heart, regardless of the consequences.

Cracks like that caught my attention and couldn’t, in my mind, be papered over. The final push, if you like, was when it was announced at a Congregation meeting that we shouldn’t be reading any other books other than those published by Jehovah’s Witnesses which, as someone who still read books from various genres, was the final straw for me. Shortly after that I walked away and didn’t go back, and I now look upon my time as a Witness with fondness and also with the knowing that it was a catalyst, and I was meant to go down that route as part of my Spiritual Journey.

When I look back on those fourteen years, I now understand they served their purpose and I had to fully immerse myself in their Teachings and Doctrines, because it has helped create the foundation upon which I now stand. It was the beginning of an Awakening and a Path which led to my current one and I benefitted in many different ways during those years.

For example, my initial Bible Studies and Discussions helped me to quit smoking literally overnight because I wanted to join this new family. My work with Refugees helped me to learn Compassion as well as broaden my knowledge of other Belief Systems and Cultures. I learned that to have a super time at a party didn’t require alcohol, only good music and great people. My Bible Knowledge obviously increased as during that time I studied the Bible chapter by chapter, front to back six or seven times, plus hundreds of other books and thousands of articles.

The point is, when I was that Fulltime Preacher, no amount of persuasion would have shifted my perspective that I had the Truth. I had to do that myself and that’s the same for you if you want to raise your Self-esteem or stop worrying or truly believe in yourself or overcoming Impostor Syndrome. There are no magic pills or wands or hypnotherapy sessions to do it for you, only you and your Decision, your Choice and your Determination to see it through.

Namaste,

J Sadler-Scott

Make the Decision

We all know making decisions affect our lives in so many ways, whether it's deciding to get up in the morning or not or what food to eat or whether a certain colour suits our complexion - thousands of decisions every day and we are conscious of very few of them. So what about the decision to be successful or not?

Source: Unknown

That's a decision we can make at any time, however we do have to make it. No-one is going to change our lives for us, we have to decide to that ourselves and then take whatever steps are necessary to achieve it.

Randy Gage explains this a bit further in his video and uses examples from his own life.

See you next time,
Jez

Did I Get Your Pity Party Invite?

Do You Like Digging Holes? Then Welcome to my Pity Party!

 – said no-one ever! You don’t get invited to Pity Parties, you get dragged into them or you create your own personal ones by digging Pity Party Pits to hide in. Why do we do that? Normally because we have something that isn’t going to plan, and we don’t want to face it.

In this brief video I shot last year, hence the beard, I explain how to turn those challenges around and use them as opportunities instead.

See you next time,

Jez

Allowing Even a Little Doubt Can Scupper a Big Dream

Hands up if this is you: You have a dream, or a desire, and you would really like to achieve it and then you tell yourself that it probably won’t happen because you’re too old or too fat or too young or broke or it’s out of your league – does that sound familiar? In this post I’m sharing two tools which will allow you to get rid of any doubts like that and stop them from scuppering your dreams.

Doubts are dream killers, desire sinkers, goal blockers. Even the smallest of niggly little doubts can throw up a wall stopping you in your tracks. Even the smallest of doubts can, and do, keep you from achieving anything worthwhile in your life. They can stop you from applying for that great job, from getting to know your soulmate, from passing your driving test, getting that promotion and – well, I’m sure you get the idea.

So why do we have doubts if they seemingly have nothing better to do than stop us from doing the stuff we want? Well not all doubts are negative, there are those which are positive and actually protect us. Doubts come from our subconscious minds and form part of our Fight or Flight system and back when we had more to worry about than who’s saying what about us on Facebook, they helped to prevent us from wild beasts, rival tribes and eating weird plants. They created a wariness for certain potentially dangerous situations and worked with our intuition to keep us from harm.

In our modern age they still carry out similar duties and can protect us from all kinds of dangers – still plenty of baddies and weird plants out there! However, as such, they also do their best to keep us in our Comfort Zones so when we want to try something new, in kicks our subconscious minds with a little niggle or two. If we take notice of them, and we mostly do, we use the doubt as an excuse, as a justification for not doing what we really want to do. My hunch is, many of you are nodding your heads right now and are asking, “Well what can we do to stop these doubts?”

In his book “Law of Attraction”, Michael Losier lists 10 Allowing Tools which are designed for that very purpose. I’m going to share one of the tools from the book plus another which isn’t on the list. Are you ready to plug that hole and get sailing off into your desired new adventure?

This first Allowing Tool is simply called Allowing Statements. Here’s how they work.

Let’s say you’ve started a new business and you’re in the process of attracting your ideal clients and you’ve written Desire Statements to that effect. As you read through them one of them causes a little doubt to surface. 

For example, it could be “I’m excited at the thought of serving my ideal clients” or “I love the thought of meeting my ideal clients at Networking Meetings” but little Doubty Tom pipes up and says – “Yeah, if I get any!” or “As if that’s going to work! Remember last time when…”  

Allowing Statements help to eliminate that doubt by helping you understand what’s possible. In order for these to work effectively simply follow these four guidelines:

1.      Ask: Is there anyone on the planet having or doing this now?
2.  If so, how many today, yesterday, tomorrow, next week etc.
3. Make it believable.
4. Exclude any reference to yourself.

With the above examples in mind, here are a couple of Allowing Statements around attracting your ideal clients:

Today someone just met an ideal client at a Networking Meeting.

Around the world millions of clients are receiving great service.

1000’s of new business owners in the UK meet their ideal clients at Networking events.

Get the picture?

OK, let’s move on to next Allowing Tool  which is called “What I like best about…”

This tool is cool because you get to write lots of positive stuff about your favourite client, customer, workmate, employee and so on. Here’s how it works.

Let’s say, in this scenario, you are in the process of attracting your ideal job. Your feelings about your Desire Statements are pretty good, however you would like that little bit of added assurance – just in case (Note the Doubt here?). You have a good idea of how your ideal job should fit into your life, so you take a sheet of paper and you write the heading: Here’s what I like about my ideal job (obviously you would be a bit more specific). Then list what you expect or want, for example:

I love that my boss really cares about  their staff

I get paid well

My hours are flexible and I can take care of the children easily

The work is very enjoyable

There are great opportunities for promotion

And so on.

The thing is, the Law of Attraction doesn’t know if you’re writing fantasy or truth, it doesn’t see what you’re writing, hear what you’re saying or know what you’re thinking. It only knows what you are feeling, what you are vibrating, about any given situation or thing or person and will strive to match that vibration because that’s its job description: Match Vibrations.

That means you can use these tools, and the others in Michael’s book, to help attract anything you want into your life – providing you are prepared to Allow it and trust the Law of Attraction to orchestrate and unfold whatever needs to happen to attract and allow your Desires to sail into your port. Allowing tools help provide proof and proof always conquers doubts and stops your dreams from being scuppered.

Until next time
Jez