Revel in the Glory of Your Abundance!

When you celebrate a goal you’ve achieved, it’s a great feeling isn’t it? All that hard work and consistent action finally paying off, all frustrations wiped from memory in that glorious moment. Perhaps, especially if it was a major goal, you’ve celebrated a few milestones along the way, and that’s a great thing to do. However, what about the time in between the milestones? Did you celebrate that?

Something I’ve learned in more recent times is to acknowledge whatever I am attracting into my life, regardless whether that’s positive or negative. However, for the purposes of this post, I’ll focus on the positive attraction.

By ‘acknowledging’ I mean taking ownership of whatever comes into your life that you are giving time, energy or attention to. So, that humongous goal you’re striving to achieve may be broken down into milestones, as mentioned above, however there’s lots of stuff in between to be aware of as well. These are all messages that the Law of Attraction is working on your behalf and if you ignore them, well that could have a detrimental effect on your goal – either it takes longer than planned to reach or doesn’t happen at all. And these messages can be subtle, seemingly insignificant or obvious in-your-face ones, so it pays to be aware.

I keep an Abundance Journal to keep a daily track of what I’ve attracted. I note everything down which may or may not be relevant such as a great shopping deal, a chance meeting with a prospective client, receiving information leading to a possibly fortuitous opportunity, a free cup of coffee – anything which I feel I have attracted. I jot them down then write them into my daily journal every morning and also express gratitude for them. I have also used the Abundance Journal provided by Michael Losier, which you can download from the link below.

In this way I am celebrating my Attractability, revelling in the glory of my abundance, no matter how small or great. By doing this I’m still keeping my main goal – or goals - in mind, thus giving them attention and celebrating the journey instead of feeling like I’m playing catch up because I’m not there yet.

Why not try it for a month, see how it feels and if it provides the results you want well, all the better!  

Abundance Journal and Other Worksheets

Transforming Desires into Reality

For many affirmations just don’t work and it causes a lot of frustration. That was certainly the case with me until I discovered Declarative Statements and stopped sabotaging my positive intentions.

Firstly, what are Affirmations? They are positive statements set in the present tense. An example of an affirmation is:

“I am so happy and grateful now I am enjoying an amazing level of fitness and health.”

Is there anything wrong with that? On the face of it no, it seems perfectly ok. Two things, however, need to be considered here. Firstly, from the aspect of The Universe where you are claiming to be already fit and healthy, so the said Universe says:

 “OK, you’ve got what you want, job done.”

Secondly, from a Law of Attraction perspective, your subconscious mind would create an opposing statement because it knows what you’re saying isn’t exactly true, for example:  

“Dude, I saw you in the mirror this morning and you are far from being fit and healthy!”

Don’t get me wrong, affirmations do work for some, just not for all. Also, as in my case, you may experience some changes but not the changes you were expecting. Until I discovered Declarative Statements I had been using affirmations on a daily basis for almost 30 years. I would print them onto A4 sheets of paper and stick them in all the recommended strategic places. I would memorise them, repeating them often throughout the day and before sleeping at night. Yet, still no financial freedom, nice home, dream car and so on. I did, however, develop great positive habits and thinking!

My hunch is that you’ve experienced something similar and maybe you’ve even given up on affirmations altogether, thinking they’re a waste of time or that perhaps you aren’t ‘destined’ to have a great life. Am I right?

With that in mind, what can we say to a) allow the Law of Attraction to attract a positive result and b) prevent our subconscious minds from sabotaging our efforts? That’s where Declarative Statements come in and this is how they work.

Remember, our words form the thoughts which create the vibrations (moods or feelings) - either positive or negative – which attract our results – again either positive or negative. Therefore, if we want to change our results we need to change our vibrations and to change our vibrations we need to change our thoughts and to change our thoughts we need to change the words we’re using.

A Declarative Statement is essentially a re-framed affirmation which raises your vibration. Instead of stating “I Am…” or similar use “I’m in the process of…” and fill in the blank. For example, if you wanted to attract a much healthier lifestyle you could say:

“I’m in the process of attracting a fitter and healthier lifestyle through healthy eating and regular exercise.”

Even though you’re not stating a ‘clear intention’ as some purists might say, nevertheless this re-framed wording is accepted by the subconscious mind as truth and a positive vibe is sent out to be matched by the Law of Attraction which, in turn, will attract whatever information, strategies, support, opportunities you need to get, in this example, fitter and healthier.

What I’ve shared here is a stripped-down version of what I teach in my Deliberate Attraction Strategy Workshops where I go into more detail however, a simple Declarative Statement such as the one above will work just as well.

I now use these all the time and am enjoying some surprising results and it’s my intention for you to use Declarative Statements instead of Affirmations, so you can stop self-sabotaging your positive actions and truly transform your desires into reality.

Recommended Reading

Money, Master the Game by Tony Robbins - great interviews, tips and tricks by some of the world's most successful people

Life Hacks; Handy Tips to Make Life Easier – Dan Marshall

If you prefer to listen rather than read then Audible offers a 30 day free trial

So What do I Want?

Let’s face it, we all know what we don’t want, right? Yet when it comes to knowing what we do want, we tend to be a bit unsure. Wouldn’t it be nice to have some clarity on that?

If I said to you “List 10 things you don’t like about your current work”, you would most likely have that list ready in a few minutes! If I then said, “Now list 10 things you Like about your current work”, that would get you humming and ha-ing and it would probably take you twice as long, that’s if you even complete the list. That’s down to how our subconscious mind works, it’s easier to focus on the negative rather than the positive. Now obviously that isn’t the norm for everyone, there are always exceptions, but for the many it is indeed the case.

So, does that mean only a few will ever know for sure what they really want in life or business? Nope, because there is a way to shortcut that thinking, to kind of reverse engineer it so that you gain Clarity from your Contrast, your contrast being that which you don’t want.

Part of what I teach people is to do just that. A lot of the contrast we have in business, or life, has to do with three little words which, once eliminated, can produce a lot of clarity, help you gain certainty about what you really want to achieve. Those words are “Don’t”, “Not” and “No”. So, how does it work?

If you are saying things like “I don’t want unreliable clients” “No worries” “I’m not as successful as I would like to be” or similar, you are creating negative vibrations which the Law of Attraction is matching and thus, you get the Contrast you don’t want and not the Clarity or positive results you do want.

Now, some of you are reading this and a little voice is saying, how on earth do I eliminate Don’t, Not and No from my vocabulary, it’s impossible! To an extent that’s true, it’s more to do with how you use them. As you can see in the last paragraph, I used Don’t and Not, however not (there I go again) in a statement of intent.

There’s a very simple tool you can use to help you, at the very least, reduce the use of Don’t, Not and No and that is to ask “Well, what do I want?”. Immediately, as soon as you say that, the vibe changes and you start thinking in a more positive way as you contemplate a positive solution, thus gaining Clarity. Feels great, doesn’t it?

Now have some fun with it. Every time you catch yourself using Don’t, Not or No, ask yourself “Well, what do I want?” Like anything that’s practised, it will become automatic in time and you will have created a very useful habit helping you gain Clarity from your Contrast.

Is The Law of Attraction a Thing?

Is the Law of Attraction a Thing and, indeed, was it ever a Thing? Now, I’m being a little sneaky here, because by “Thing” I don’t mean a fad or craze, but something more tangible.

Certainly, since the movie The Secret came out in 2006, the Law of Attraction has been a Thing in the sense of a fad or craze, something which has become very popular and, in many ways, mainstream. The movie “The Secret” certainly started or rejuvenated a few careers as a result!

However, in that movie the main focus is on materialising the material such as money, houses, cars and so forth and the concepts shared are, in my opinion, incomplete. The impression is given that if you sit and chant affirmations all day or stick cut-outs of what you want on a Vision Board or create a Mind Movie, the Law of Attraction - or The Universe - will magically make it appear. 

Sadly, that isn't the case otherwise we would all be living our ideal lives. There was very little attention given to the action required, time frames involved and what to actually do - except maybe to sign up for newsletters which usually led to endless offers of this or that programme which claimed to "go beyond the teachings of The Secret". Basically, it may work for a few, but not for the many.

The Law of Attraction I'm referring to, as taught by Michael Losier, is a more Hands-On approach, a practical exercise which actually works in a more tangible way. In that sense the Law of Attraction is most definitely a Thing even though you can’t see it, taste it, touch it, smell it or even hear it. I’m unable to show you pictures of it, or recordings of it or even send you jars full of it yet it is very real, and you can experience it.

The metaphor I would use to describe the Law of Attraction is Air. We don’t see air, we experience light shining through it. We don’t feel air, we experience the sensation as it brushes over our skin. We can’t touch air, it’s not tangible. We don’t hear air, we experience the sound of it reacting to changes in temperature or as it moves something that’s loose. We don’t smell or taste air, we experience the smell of, and even taste, substances carried by the air. As already pointed out, we do experience air – especially when we breathe!

With air we don’t doubt that it’s always there, all around us, entering in and out of our lungs. It’s similar for the Law of Attraction. It’s always there, matching our vibrations, our feelings, our moods. It’s Energy vibrating at a very high frequency, therefore invisible.

Michael Losier defines the Law of Attraction as "Whatever you give your time, energy or focus to you will attract more of, whether positive or negative" and that, to me, makes a heck of a lot more sense and correlates perfectly with similar concepts taught down through the ages.

Fact is, whether you believe it or not, whether you want it or not, whether you reject it or not – the Law of Attraction is a Thing and it is working 24/7, 365.25 in our lives, whether we are aware of it or not. Want to see proof? Just check out the results you are experiencing in your business, career, life, relationships, finances and so on. There’s your tangible proof that the Law of Attraction is very much a Thing!


Recommended Reading:

Crushing it! - How great entrepreneurs build their business and how you can too -  by Gary Vaynerchuk

Your Life’s Purpose - Uncover what really fulfills you -  by Michael Losier

Has Meditation Become Gimmicky?

Meditation, as we know it in the West, has come from Eastern cultures and I’m of the opinion that it has indeed become gimmicky with lots of little add-ons to make one “Teacher” different from the next. Here’s why I think that.

Meditation teachers, Gurus, Yogis, Wannabes and the like all say pretty much the same things when it comes to describing how you should meditate. They mostly say we should sit on the floor, crossed legged, hands in our laps on top of each other with palms facing upwards, thumbs crossed, back erect, head straight and facing forward and so on. After that they tend to differ slightly when it comes to breathing techniques, eyes open or closed, clear mind or not, focus on a thought, an object or nothing at all.

Now, before I get the wrath of Buddha or some other “god” called down upon me, I will say there is nothing inherently wrong with all of that. If you’ve been taught these methods and are happy to use them, or even teach them, that’s fine, that’s your choice. All I’m saying is that some of the “rituals” associated with meditation are not necessary and are, in my mind, a bit gimmicky.

As I’ve mentioned, the meditation practices we know in the West have come mainly from Eastern cultures such as India, China, Japan and Tibet. As such they are usually associated with religious beliefs such as Buddhism and each has its own set of rituals or traditions.

For example, let’s look at Positions. As mentioned the ideal position, according to the Teachers, is sitting crossed legged on the floor, upright posture, hands in lap and so forth. My question is, do we really need to be in a certain position to meditate? Buddhists, Tibetan Monks and similar do so because it’s part of their culture to sit on the floor. They find it easy to sit in those positions and, therefore, it’s a comfortable and natural way for them to meditate.

Us Westerners are chair users and have been since probably the Roman times, if not before. When we lived in Round Houses and caves, chances are we used to also sit on the floor or ground either crossed legged or kneeling as many Japanese still do. We have forgotten how to do that and, therefore, we mostly find it difficult and uncomfortable to adopt these positions.

However, it doesn’t matter whether we are chair users or not, there’s no need to meditate in a specific position. You can meditate standing, sitting, running or walking. When you consider those who have mobility issues, who are bed-ridden, wheelchair bound and so on, who are unable to adopt these positions, does this mean they are excluded from meditation because they’re unable to do so? Of course not!

There are numerous stories about people paralyzed from the neck down who meditated whilst lying in their beds and were able to either heal themselves completely or gain some mobility. Others did so whilst in wheelchairs or were dealing with a Stroke, all of which are (in my mind) proof that no special position is needed, although admittedly lying down to meditate does tend to end in sleep, however your subconscious mind is still at work even then, so you are still meditating.

It’s also said you should cross your ankles and your thumbs, or fingers, to create a circuit to allow the Energy to flow more effectively. I’m not certain about that and here’s why. Energy is flowing through everything all the time. We are Energy Beings encased in a slower vibrating Energy Body. What’s going to stop the Energy from flowing when all IS Energy?

In conclusion the way I see it is: It doesn’t matter how, where or in what position you meditate, it all works. Whether you want to follow the teachings of Tibetan Monks or a self-styled Guru in downtown San Diego, then do so if that makes you happy. All I’m saying is, other forms of meditation practices are available should you wish to use them. Don’t be put off from meditating because you think you need to be a contortionist or if you have mobility issues. Meditation is in the mind, not the body.

Book Recommendation

This is a great book about Mindfulness which I highly recommend. It also contains some Mindfulness exercises and Buddhist Sutras:

The Miracle of Mindfulness by Thich Naht Hahn

Being 100% Positive Actually Weakens You

Do you know how many thoughts we have every day? No, nor do I however scientists put it around one hundred thousand. What I can tell you is that 80% of those 100k thoughts are Negative! Yes, I said Negative! So, what chance have we got of being 100% Positive? Little to no chance and I'm not being negative by saying that, quite the opposite because we need to be negative at times, and here's why...

We have so many negative thoughts because it's the default setting within our subconscious minds. It comes from the days when we had to live our lives on full alert all the time to protect ourselves and those around us from wild beasts and marauding tribes. Negativity is well and truly integrated into our Fight or Flight system and we still need it. 

Now I'm sure, like me, you've heard practically every Positive Thinking Expert or Guru say we should strive to be only Positive, to avoid newspapers, the TV news, Soaps, scary or violent movies, getting angry and more. Now admittedly those forms of entertainment or Media Input are not that beneficial however, just like junk food, they only do real harm if you're constantly feeding yourself with them.

For example, if you are on a weight reduction programme yet are having waffles and syrup for breakfast (or a Full English if you're in UK), then Burger and Fries for lunch and Pizza for your evening meal, then it's not going to work, is it? No, of course not! However, the odd occasional pizza, MacNuggetBurger and Fries etc is ok - especially as a treat!

Another example. Gold. Have you ever noticed that gold items are mostly 9 or 18 carat and very rarely - if ever - pure gold unless they're antique? Why do you think that is? The answer is quite simple; pure gold is too soft to work with efficiently, therefore nickel is added, or some other low grade metal, to make it easier and more robust to work with and enable the finished product to be worn for much longer. 

So, when it comes to negativity the same kind of rule applies in a sense - we need to have some negativity in our lives to enable us to function efficiently otherwise we would be lopsided, imbalanced. Being 100% Positive would be Pollyanna on steroids and we wouldn't want that, would we?

As a last thought, Michael Losier says in his book, Law of Attraction, that it's OK to be negative - briefly. So, it's OK to have a quick rant or smash a plate (or laptop in my case!) or to be angry with a situation etc, so long as it's only for a brief time and then you get back on track.

How long is briefly? Michael says that depends on you and the situation. Some are negative for a few minutes, for others it could be a few years until they find closure or finish grieving. Point is, just don't stay negative because that's even more damaging than being 100% Positive!

Now you know why you can't be 100% Positive, however must we remain 80% Negative and only 20% Positive? No, we don't need that amount of negativity in our lives today, it no longer serves the same purpose. Using the Law of Attraction and other Positive Growth tools, you can reverse the 80/20 so that it becomes 80% Positive and 20% Negative, which creates a more balanced way of living as well as a more joyful life.

Some Useful Links, including affiliate links:

Crushing it by Gary Vaynerchuk

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The Miracle of Mindfulness by Thich Naht Hahn

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Life Hacks; Handy Tips to Make Life Easier – Dan Marshall

https://goo.gl/MsvZHV

YouTube: How I Prevented My Eviction Using The Law of Attraction

Can You See Without Your Eyes?

If I was to ask you that question - Can you see without your eyes? - you would probably answer "Of course not", right? And, if I was to say that we don't actually see with our eyes, you would probably start to think I was crazy!

However, in reality, we don't see with our eyes. Let me explain. When you have a pair of binoculars do you say you are seeing through them or looking through them? The latter, right? And why? Because we are using the binos as an instrument to gather pictorial information. The same goes for our eyes.

We look with our eyes, but actually see with our brains. Whatever information we take in with our eyes gets translated into images in our brains and is then further translated back into words. Our brains use images to see and we use our eyes to gather those images from our surroundings.

Someone who loses their sight will still remember how things looked from the images they see in their brains. When you use words to describe something - a tree, green grass, a log fire - their brains immediately recall the images enabling them to see what you are talking about.

So the next time someone says they see what you mean, you'll know that their brain has created or recalled an image of whatever it is you are talking about.

The Choice Is Yours And Yours Alone

So here I am, it's Bank Holiday in the UK, very warm and I have chosen to write this blog post. That's a conscious decision I've made. 

We make decisions like that all day long about what to eat or wear, where to go, who to talk to and so on. We also make decisions unconsciously and these, too, are a choice. We choose to breathe. We choose to allow our hearts to beat and pump blood. When we eat we choose to swallow. These are all unconscious choices which we could also choose NOT to do, although that wouldn't be advisable!

The same goes for when we want to be prosperous. We choose actions which will either help or hinder us, depending on the route we take. For example I used to have certain views about being wealthy based on where I grew up and, later, on a certain religious ideology. I grew up in Belfast, Northern Ireland, during a time now better known as The Troubles. In my mind, based on TV reports, The Troubles were being supported by very wealthy business people supporting one side or the other through funding which was used to buy weapons and explosives which, in turn, was used to indiscriminately kill innocent people  - including children.

Later, when I got involved with a religious movement who were dead against materialism and really frowned on anyone wanting to become a success in what they termed The World, I bought into that way of thinking because of my experience growing up in Belfast. I used to even state that I hated money with a passion.

The result of these experiences, and others related to them, resulted in me obviously never having money for long. In one hand and out the other as quickly as possible. The only time I saved was when it was done for me and as soon as I had access to that, which amounted to about $3,000 at the time, it was gone withing a few weeks.

It was my choice to believe what I did, my choice to act as I did, my choice to self-sabotage myself all those years. Knowing what I know now do I regret those actions, beliefs and so on? No, those are my experiences and I've learned from them. Obviously it would be great to go back in time and rectify everything however, in all honesty, I'm not sure I would.

Prosperity is a choice and that brings me to this video where Randy Gage explains just that and which inspired me to write this post. Enjoy!

How to Prevent Your Enery Being Sucked Right Out of You

There's a funny saying that some people light up a room - when they leave! However I'm sure, like me, you've actually met people like that. People who seem to drain your very energy from you and feed themselves with it. Dr Christian Northrup shares what to look out for - the danger signs - and what to do about these Energy Vampires in this Inspire Nation interview.

She also shares why breathing through your mouth is unhealthy! 

Law of Attraction as an Extra Income

If you're like me and love the Law of Attraction, you might be wondering if there's any money in it. There is and I would say it's a great extra income opportunity which could develop further should you wish to.

Michael Losier is hosting a 2 day Law of Attraction Facilitator workshop on May 16 & 17 in Las Vegas. You will be taught how to give free presentations which will lead to paid seminars/workshops of your own.

For more information click HERE and you will be taken to the website where you can learn more and register - and get a $100 Early Bird discount!

You Makes Your Choice

Back in 2014 I rediscovered Bob Proctor. I say rediscovered, truth is I had paid him only scant attention until then. Now if you don’t know who Bob Proctor is he is probably the world’s foremost Prosperity teacher and speaker. You really have to watch his videos on YouTube, the guy is amazing and he’s been teaching this stuff since the 1960s so he knows his onions.

His main teaching is how our thoughts can make or break us. He talks about how we can replace the Paradigms, or ingrained habits, which hold us back and stop us from achieving greatness, with new ones.

Scientists, and those who study such things, say that the first six years of our lives are the most formative, hence they call them, unsurprisingly, the Formative Years. They have discovered that up until the age of six we accept anything we’re told as truth and without question. We soak up information, whether correct or incorrect, like a sponge. It’s only after the age of six that we start to question whether something is true or not, wrong or right. That’s why we should always be careful about what we say and do around very young children.

In fact, I would go so far as to say we should be careful, especially vocally, what we say or how react when around our unborn children for it has been noted that babies developing in the womb react to sound in a positive or negative way. 

Scientists who study child behaviour say that by the way a child reacts to situations after their first six years tends to determine not only the kind of person they are likely to develop into, but also what kind of job they’ll have and whether or not they’ll lead successful lives. Spooky stuff, right?

Obviously other factors, such as the environment we grow up in, the peer groups we associate with and personal experiences all add to the mix and add to our development and way of thinking.

All this will determine the choices we make in life and that is Bob Proctor’s point – it’s all about personal choice. No matter what situation we find ourselves in, no matter what kind of life we lead, no matter whether we are rich or poor, sick or healthy, somewhere along the line we all made personal conscious or subconscious choices leading to courses of action which culminate in the lives we now lead. Don’t get it? Let me explain it a little more.

Bob’s ‘Bible’ is the book “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill and is the basis for all his teaching and one which I have read and listened to several times over the years along with many other books and audios along similar lines. I have also attended related workshops, seminars, webinars and what have you and yet I was still more or less back to where I started – not stinking rich but filthy poor, and not just in a material sense. I couldn’t understand it, why was I not making any real progress? Why wasn’t I living the abundant lifestyle I’d set out to achieve? It was beyond me.

I’m sure I’m not alone, I’m not the only frustrated positive thinking self-helper in this world. In fact, I’ll bet many, if not most, of you reading this book are asking the self-same questions. You’ve had the same or similar experiences as I’ve had over the years. Am I right?

As I’ve mentioned before, I’ve always been fascinated by the power of the mind, I wanted to know how it worked, how people could even heal themselves just by apparently thinking about it. I wanted to have that ‘power’ and use it to heal the world so we could all live in true peace and security and in harmony with each other. Whereas that may sound a bit idealistic, Pollyanna-ish and even naïve, it’s still at the root of why I want to help others to become so much more than they currently are.

As a result, from a very early age, I began to study people, became a People Watcher. I read books on psychology and anthropology and various philosophical works. I studied the Bible several times over the course of a 15-year period with Jehovah’s Witnesses, also delved into other religions and rounded all that off with some seriously deep thinking.

The conclusion? It is exactly as the wise King Solomon once wrote – “There is no new thing under the sun… for all is vanity.” I could no more straighten a crooked path or create something new than he could do even with all his great knowledge and wisdom. But, I have learned that we are not only individuals who occasionally do similar things, react in a similar way, we are also the makers of our own beds and each one of us is unique in the way we lie in them, in the choices we make. Let’s review an example of that in action.

  Let’s say you go into work and on the staff notice board is notice of an internal vacancy for a managerial position. You decide to apply because you believe you have the right skill sets needed for the job and your knowledge of the company’s operating procedures is high. You’ve proved you’re a hard worker, a top performer, and you get on well with your colleagues and management. All-in-all you believe you fulfil the criteria the post requires.

Your application is accepted and you sail through the initial interviews and are short-listed. In fact, the senior management have even hinted that you are the favourite during the final interview stages. You’re feeling well chuffed, you reckon it’s in the bag, just a matter of formality before you’re offered the post, even your colleagues are starting to congratulate you and you even start planning what you will do with the extra money the post will bring. What could possibly go wrong?

King Solomon also wrote about Pride before a Fall because what happens next could be described as your Brexit moment, something totally unexpected. For no apparent reason you have a blow up with a colleague, an absolute Ding Dong that almost comes to blows and during which you both let loose some disparaging remarks which are deemed offensive. You both end up on a disciplinary and end up with blots on your copy books. Further, you know you can kiss goodbye to that managerial post which was at your fingertips.

Why did that happen? Why did (the hypothetical) you sabotage your own efforts when victory was so close? This is what I term as The Crab Mentality. Remember those crabs in a bucket I talked about earlier? This is the personal version. It’s not just those around us who can pull us back, even cut off our pincers, but we can subconsciously do it to ourselves too.

Let’s go back to your blow up. It’s irrelevant how it started or who was the first antagonist. What is relevant is how you reacted, how you CHOSE to react at that particular time. Upon reflection you know you could have, and should have, handled the situation differently either by ignoring the provocation or biting your tongue to prevent you from being the provocateur. However, you chose to take a course of action which led to you and your colleague being disciplined and you losing the promotion you wanted.

It’s then you realise that something like this happens every time you try to move forward in life, every time you try to escape the bucket, you feel you are pulled back in some way. You think Life’s unfair, not treating you right, and it’s always somebody (or something) else’s fault. You’re then disgruntled, another choice, and it affects your performance and you get put on a Performance Review and, before you know it, you’ve left that company for pastures new. 

Does any of that have a familiar feel to it? It does to me because I was that hypothetical guy. Oh yes, my inner crab well and truly severed my pincers on that occasion! I had more or less got the post, was actually working in the role on a three-month probationary period when I had a fall out with my shift manager, just before my final interview. Needless to say that interview didn’t turn out so well.

And the cause of the blow out? Shift performance figures. I’d made a mistake in my hourly calculations and I went all defensive and let it get to me, blaming others for my lack of understanding. All I had to do was admit I didn’t have a clue, but I came from a point of weakness and tried to wing it instead, made a hash of it and a fool of myself. My anger was directed more at me than at my shift manager, although he played his part too.

I know I’m not the only one who has ruined their career chances in such a way. The news is full of celebrities, politicians and other note-worthies who have done something really stupid which has ended their career just as they were ‘getting famous’ or starting a new important or high profile role. President Bill Clinton and Monica, Boris Becker and the broom cupboard, George Michael and shop windows and a whole host more.

With all of us in that situation somewhere deep within our subconscious an event happened which was to have this seemingly everlasting effect and which is there solely to prevent us from being the success we consciously want, acting from a misguided form of protection.

The subconscious, remember, doesn’t know truth from untruth, fact from fiction, wrong from right. Like a computer it reacts upon the information given at any particular time and if that information says it has to take a certain form of action when a certain situation crops up, that’s exactly and dutifully what it will do. The irony is, we probably programmed it ourselves based on what we learned in those formative years or through personal experience in our peer groups and environment.

The question is, can anything be done to rectify this and the answer is yes. That’s the whole point of Bob Proctor’s teaching, to enable us to change those unwanted paradigms, replace them with more fortuitous ones, reprogram our subconscious minds. Then we can start enjoying the real life we were meant to have, the one the Good Books all talk about.

Don't Hold Onto Resentment

For decades, ever since I was 16, I had an unhealthy resentment for my step-father. Why? Because he took me out of school and into a working life. 

Back then I was in the top O-Level class in my school, was doing very well and had just completed my mocks with 9 passes out of 9, all with decent grades. It would have meant me taking my A-Levels and possibly on to University where my studies would lead to either an acting career or journalism.

                                                   (Speaking before a room of Entrepreneurs)

My step-father, however, had decided that as I was now 16 I could start an apprenticeship instead and bring money into the house. I left school halfway through my final year, at Christmas, and started training as a car mechanic. I was not best pleased.

At first, though, I enjoyed the work, the City & Guilds course I was on (got a distinction in my first year) and, of course, getting paid. Sadly, that line of work came to an end when I had a run-in with the MD and was sacked. It was then when I really started to resent the fact that I, in essence, had become a school dropout, an unqualified minion in the eyes of future employers. I began to feel inferior because I didn’t have any bits of paper to say otherwise. I even lied to people, saying I had both O and A-levels just to make them think better of me. I didn’t want to admit, or accept, the truth.

Since then I have got various qualifications through my military career and work experience, have taken several courses and hold a Diploma in Freelance Journalism and am currently working on a Philosophy degree with Open University.

As for my step-father, thanks to my Reiki training I’ve been able to forgive him although sadly not in person. In hindsight, he actually did me a massive favour because I’ve learned more about life through personal experience than I would have done in any classroom. I’ve been able to ‘study’ people first hand rather than through the pages of books or through lectures. 

Doubts Are Creeping In

You know, there’s a difference between exercising patience and wondering if anything is happening. Since my big experience with Law of Attraction, where I attracted around £5,000 (approx. $7,000) in advice and actual funds to prevent my eviction, nothing major has happened.

I’ve attracted stuff, sure, but it’s all been small change, little things, pennies rather than Pounds or Dollars. I’ve attracted things like reduced priced products, free training via podcasts or YouTube, more Social Media interaction, a bargain or two – all bitty stuff in the whole scheme of things, which can be very discouraging.

I was expecting greater results, if I’m being honest, results which would provide definitive proof that I’m heading in the right direction. Proof that shouts out YES the Law of Attraction is dealing with my order, or orders in this case, and yet – next to diddly squat.

Then, I’m reminded of something I heard on a podcast, no longer remember which one, however I do remember this one point: Always be grateful for what you receive, regardless whether big or small. At least, that was the essence of the message. It also reminded me of what that great teacher, Jesus, also once said when he advised us to have Faith in both small and great things. Basically, both are saying the same thing.

If we are displaying gratitude for only the major stuff and disparaging the minor achievements, we are not doing ourselves any favours. Look at it this way.

We ask the Universe/Law of Attraction for more money. We see a penny lying on the path and we say to ourselves, “I’m not picking that up, that’s beneath me, I don’t need it.” Now, the Law of Attraction reacts to that by matching your vibration. At that particular moment in time you are giving off a negative vibration towards money, the Law of Attraction matches that and guess what? You don’t get more money in your life, your request is effectively denied.

By refusing the penny you are actually telling the Law of Attraction that you don’t want money. Don’t forget, the Law of Attraction doesn’t know it’s only a penny, it does know how you feel about money in that instance. So, you can imagine the Law of Attraction saying something like: “Hey, you asked for money, here’s money. You don’t want it? OK, you don’t want money, your wish is my command!” And it obeys, because the Law of Attraction is very obedient, it always obeys the Vibes you give out.

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So, yes, I’m not attracting the major stuff I’ve asked for, however I am very grateful for all the little things I am attracting along the way. I use the Abundance Journal to record all my Attractions on a daily basis and then I write them out and express gratitude for them in my Daily Journal. It’s actually amazing what you can uncover to be grateful for, once you start thinking about all the things that have happened throughout your day such as: finding that ideal parking space, getting a 50% discount on a shopping item, a smile from a grumpy neighbour, getting a seat on a crowded train – all evidence that the Law of Attraction is working on your behalf.

Yes doubts are creeping in, they always do with me because I’m results oriented. I like to see constant results and I do start to wonder, when there are no apparent indications that I’m on the right track, if I am indeed doing the right thing. Part of being human I guess. 

However all proof, small or otherwise, is evidence that the Law of Attraction is working on my behalf and that helps to dispel the doubts. Doubts are conquered by proof, but we have to look for that proof – sometimes with a magnifying glass!

Humility with Swag!

Randy Gage is one of my long time mentors, I've been learning from him for about 15 years now. He does a lot of coaching, both with Network Marketers and with Business Owners plus anyone who basically wants to improve their lot in life. He does a weekly message on his YouTube channel, Prosperity TV, and this is the latest episode which I felt was relevant right now. Enjoy!

My Personal Law of Attraction Journey - The Beginning

Over the next 12 months I'll be documenting my personal Law of Attraction Journey and this video is the beginning.

I share how I started with this particular style of Law of Attraction which Michael Losier teaches. It's an introduction to a 12-month journey I'll be undertaking, documenting my experiences - warts and all - along the way both here and on my YouTube channel 

Jez Sadler

The idea is that we can learn and grow together over the next 12 months as I share exactly what tools and techniques I’m using so you can use them too. All I ask is that you share your experiences in the comments or in my newly launched Facebook Group – #JezUpYourLife - where we can create an exclusive community all sharing this journey together.

I’ve been an ardent student of Personal Development since 1990 and years later got into the Law of Attraction via The Secret and other sources, however Michael Losier’s style of teaching, and what he teaches in his book and in his Facebook Lives, resonates with me more than anything I’ve been exposed to before and it’s starting to work in my life. In the video I mention how I was able to use the Law of Attraction to prevent me from being evicted, which should have happened on 13 March 2018, and that’s what has prompted me to document my personal Law of Attraction journey. I want to create further proof that what happened regarding my eviction wasn’t just a one-off or ‘pure coincidence’ and at the same time teach others about the Law of Attraction.

More about that eviction and other stuff about me will be revealed as we go along, so look out for my What You Don’t Know About Me posts as well.  I’ll try and post something daily on here and make at least one YouTube video per week. Other videos, my Coaching Insights as I call them, are previous Instagram videos which I recorded throughout 2017, so it won’t just be pure Law of Attraction stuff – don’t want to bore you after all!

Hope you’ve enjoyed this post and I look forward to your comments!

Is Your House A Happy One?

By that question I’m not referring to where you live, although that could also contribute. No, I’m talking about the ‘House of your Mind’, how happy are you inside that particular dwelling?

We all get plagued by negative thoughts, in fact over 80% of our thoughts are negative, and many of us spend a lot of time ‘cleaning’ our houses, doing what we can to rid ourselves of those unwanted ‘tenants’. However, what are we replacing them with?

The illustration I use in this short video is the one the Great Teacher spoke of in the Scriptures, where he asked what happens when we rid ourselves of our ‘demons’ and we leave the ‘house’ empty. Well, those evicted demons come back with all their squatter friends and take up residence once more, only this time there’s lots more of them and they’re creating even more havoc in our lives.

The solution? Once you’ve cleaned your house, evicted those unwanted tenants, get your ideal tenants in ASAP! Only accept positive thoughts, feelings and beliefs. And if a Neggy Tenant shows up? Call the Bailiffs!

Mind Your Language

Minding our language is important when it comes to these 3 little words 'Don't' 'Not' & 'No'. Words form what we say and think which, in turn, create how we feel - our Vibe - and that is then matched by the Law of Attraction bringing us our results.

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For example, if I were to say "I don't like living like this, never having enough money to pay bills or to buy things I want", despite my positive intentions I am creating a negative Vibe which is then matched by the Law of Attraction and I end up getting more of what I don't want and a lot less of what I do want.

So what can be done? Michael Losier, in his book Law of Attraction, says we should reset our Vibes by asking, "So, what do I want?" every time we catch ourselves using 'Don't' 'Not' or 'No' in a negative way. To do that we can follow this process:

• To change our Results we have to change our Vibe.
• To change our Vibe we have to change our Thoughts.
• To change our Thoughts we have to change the words we use.
• To change our Words we have to be Mindful of our Language. 

This obviously takes practice and you may not notice any immediate change in your circumstances, however you will notice how much better you feel just by asking "So, what do I want?", you'll notice a rise in your Vibration. The next step would be to declare what you DO want so, for example, using the above illustration I would declare "I want enough money to take care of my needs and more." I would then use a 3-Step process to put that into motion.

I won't go into the details in this post, however the 3-Step process is:

1. Get Clarity - what is it you want?
2. State your Ideal Desire - based on your Clarity
3. Allow it to happen - overcoming doubts

These will be the subject of an upcoming post or you can get Michael Losier's book, Law of Attraction, where he explains how it works in more detail.

By Minding our Language and eliminating - or reducing at the very least - our use of 'Don't' 'Not' & 'No', we greatly enhance our chances of attracting more of what we want into our lives. Just try it, you'll soon experience the difference. 

I Attracted This

It's not a great big win, but a win nonetheless. I attracted this last month, shortly after I learned how to write Desire Statements.
Thing is, I only wrote my Desire Statement the night before on the Friday. That's how quick the Law of Attraction can work.
I'll cover how to write Desire Statements in another post soon. 😁

Law of Attraction Job Description

Are you working for someone? If you are then you most likely have a job description embedded in your contract. This could be as simple as a few sentences to a more complex description pages long.

Did you know the Law of Attraction also has a job description? It does, and it's not even a full sentence long. Two words. That's all, just two words: Match Vibrations. How's that for a job description? 

You see, the Law of Attraction isn't concerned about what you think, say, touch, taste, hear, see or anything along those lines. In fact, it's not even aware of what you're doing. What it is aware of, and what it responds to, is the vibration you're giving off at any one time. All it's concerned about is whether that vibration is positive or negative so it can match it.

So simple, yet so effective. 

Mirror Talk

Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest of them all?

Why you are, of course! 

I AM – these two words have been stated as being the two most powerful words we can utter. The reason being everything else that comes after them will affect your present and your future either positively or negatively.

I AM at the start of a sentence denotes either a change or an affirmation is on the way.

EG the statement “I am always doing that” is often heard when someone makes a mistake, says or does something wrong and so on. That is an affirmation because you are affirming something which you have programmed your subconscious to accept. “I am enjoying (my life, day, food)” is also an affirmation, but of a more positive nature. We should, therefore, be careful what we say after I AM.

There are two more words which are every bit as powerful as I AM for what comes after them will determine how you react, what action you will take or how you feel. Those two words are YOU ARE.

Mostly 'YOU AREs' will be directed to you by a third party; someone says them to you, you read them in a personal text or email: “You are stupid!” “You are sexy.” “You are a prat!” “You are a legend!” and so on.

Depending on who says them and in what vein will determine what you do, say or feel next – again either positively or negatively. EG “You are worthless” will make you feel just that or you will react with anger to deny it. Whereas “You are sexy” will probably make you feel good and you will most likely agree!

“You are never going to amount to much” will weigh on our minds, subconsciously, especially if repeated often and that can last a lifetime and we can either strive to prove that statement wrong or affirm it. Most affirm it and their Self Esteem stays at a constantly low level. Such statements have a debilitating effect on our lives and go a long way to prevent us from achieving much from life. “You’ll never amount to much” becomes “I can’t do that, I AM not good enough”.

That’s how powerful YOU ARE is when it comes from someone else, but what if it comes from you? Will it have the same kind of effect or will our subconscious minds be able to differentiate the difference?

Well, try it and find out! Stand, or sit, in front of a mirror and say out loud to yourself:

You are stupid!

You are useless!

You are a numpty!

You are fat!

How does that make you feel? I’m betting not very good and maybe even a bit angry.

Now tell yourself:

You are successful in everything you do.

You are fantastic!

You are healthy in every way.

Now how does that make you feel? Better? I bet it does!

What you are doing is the same as when you use I AM – you are programming your subconscious mind into believing those statements, whether negative or positive. Your subconscious doesn’t know the difference between right or wrong, lie or truth – it just accepts everything as truth and acts accordingly. 

If you program it with negative crap that’s how you will think and act. Vice versa if you program your subconscious with positive affirmations you will certainly feel the benefit of that. But that’s not all.

The Law of Attraction states that what you think of most is what you will attract. Therefore, if all you think about is soap opera style negativity, then that’s exactly what you will attract and experience. If, however, you are programming your subconscious with positive 'I AMs' and 'YOU AREs' you will overcome these negative thoughts and attract more positive influences into your life physically, spiritually or materially – possibly all three!

“You are what you think about all day long.” says Napoleon Hill in his book "Think and Grow Rich" and that is so true.

EG if you are constantly telling yourself that you are a sex abuser then eventually that’s what you’ll be. If you tell yourself that you’re highly successful then that’s what you’ll become. It’s the actions that follow these thoughts, of course, which lead to the conclusion of the original I AM or YOU ARE.

There is more to it than just saying I AM or YOU ARE, you need to create the behaviours and habits to make your 'I AMs' and 'YOU AREs' a reality, but it all starts with the original thoughts. Successful people in all walks of life know and employ this as part of their daily routines.

YOU ARE, therefore, is as powerful as I AM. A bit more work is involved, though, because you have to filter out the negative 'YOU AREs' thrust upon you by others, or yourself.

Mirror Talk Exercise

Try this exercise for 30 days and notice the changes in your thinking, acting and feeling. How has it affected your circumstances?

Every morning and evening stand/sit in front of a mirror and look yourself in the eyes whilst telling yourself (preferably out loud) how good you are with statements such as:

You are loved.

You are successful in all areas of your life.

You are always positive.

You are enjoying an abundance of health and wealth.

Make up your own but make them as specific to you and what you want to achieve as you can and keep them in the present tense. You could also reinforce them with a few positive 'I AMs' throughout the day.

Remember, you are what you are meant to be and what you are meant to be is better in every way.